Monday, October 22, 2007

Some pics

A few pics from sis' camera


Me after dinner


The shoes - very nice :)


The hair style, I did it myself :)

More to come...
Love/E











On stage

Had a few busy weeks. No wedding photos yet, I promise I'll tell the rest of the wedding story when I can post some photos. Now it feels like it was ages ago I got married but I still get those head-tilted smiles and "oh are you newly wed" My ususal answer is: Uuuuhmm yeah, I guess

Well, I never said I was romantic...

Now I have started the next big project: the new kitchen. We had one architect coming over and give us an offer. She is really nice and funny and has good taste (the same as me of course). I could go with her offer only because I like her. The price is a bit steep but if all goes as planned my parents will sell the second house (a long story) and sis and me will come into some serious money :) Her price would be somewhere in the region of 30. 000 euros - a sh*t load of money but it'll look exactly like I like it.

Another one is coming next week, a guy. He actually sounded quite hot on the phone...

Had a great time this weekend. Friday I was working and spent the entire evening watching CSI - loves it!
Saturday kept watching CSI until Mr S and me met up with sis for some bowling. I did fairly well, came in 3rd... Well it wasn't that good since we were just the three of us but I had fun.
Afterwards we met up with some other friends for some food. They had gone to a pub in Soder, the part of town I like the least. The pub was really crappy but the food was really good.
Then we went onto another place. The others left for home and Mr S and me went to Riche for one last drink. Stopped by McD for some food and then home.

Sunday me and mum went to see Peter Joback. He is really good. Mum gave us tickets for Christmas but Mr S didn't really want to go. He thinks I should spend more time with my mother, propably a good thought but I really rather not.
It's ok for an evening but not more. I notice myself slowly turn into a grumpy teenager, not her fault but it's better for my peace of mind, and hers too I think, that I don't spend so much time with her.

The new fridge has arrived - looks very nice. Every finger print shows on it. A dream for the CSI team if they would come here :)

Tomorrow it's back to work again!

Take care

Love/E

Song of the day: We Should Be Dancing - B.W.O.

Monday, October 15, 2007

From Ms to Mrs

Came back from Lisbon to a not so nice surprise: the fridge was broken. Imagine milk, ham, cheese (a few French ones that were already smelly), fruit and vegetables lying in about + 20 celcius for 3 days...
So I spent the weekend listening to my husbands bitching about having a cold and looking for a new fridge and freezer. We finally found one that we both like. I wanted one from Gorenje with 26.000 Swarowski Crystals on it but Mr S, being the resonable person he is decided to gofor a classic steel from Siemens.

Last week we were in Lisbon. Or I was in Lisbon and Mr S was working.We stayed at
The Westin quite far from Lisbon so I took the bus in to town every day. It was really nice and warm, apparently warmer than usual which was nice. I did some shopping and had some really nice food. Mr S was mostly working but we got to spend one night together having dinner.

The actual wedding was really nice.
Friday night I did the last girl stuff (facial, nails and hair). Saturday we had brunch with N (a friend who was staying at our place) and the kids A&M. I left to have my make up done at MAC and afterwards we met up at the hotel to change.
Off to the wedding place where A&M, sis and toast madame C already where waiting for us.
The photographer arrived had we spent about half an hour with him taking pictures. They should be ready in about 2 weeks.
All the guests arrived and had their cosmopolitans and a small snack to eat.
For the ceremony we had chosen (or I chose) Vangelis - Conquest of Paradise so that song played as all the guests entered the museum for the ceremony.
We had chosen the "longer" civil ceremony and that takes about 7 mins :)
A few words, the "I do" and we are husband and wife!

Afterwards we had a group picture taken, we will use that for all the "Thank you"-card we will send out.
Then the dinner started - the food was great and people really enjoyed themselves. The were a few speeches, all my friends who I travel with made a really funny thing about "The Fist of Glory" - it's a long story but it was invented in Budapest ;)

Mr S and me stayed until 1 in the morning and then we went back to the hotel and I fell asleep ;)
My husband wasn't impressed....

The rest of the story will come as the pictures come :)

Take care
Love/E

Song of the day: Home - Depeche Mode

Monday, October 01, 2007

A little prayer

I followed the news this last week and the actions in Burma. What is wrong with the world we live in???
The latest unconfirmed news says that more than 40 people have been murdered and a lot more have disappeared. So sad!!

On a more personal level: I did something with my neck and back so I wasn't really able to move. Went by my old trainer for a massage on Saturday and it helped a bit, am going back there later today.
Had my make up done on Saturday, picked a fierce look from MAC so this will be my wedding look :) And it works very well. What is not working so well is my neck so please God if you're listening? Woman to woman you know that a grey neck supportcollar just won't go with my outfit, ok?!?

Apart from that: we've got the booze, the music, the clothes and most importanlty the fierce guests :)

Take care
/E
Song of the day: A little prayer - Ms Aretha

Sunday, September 16, 2007

Ride it like it's stolen

Am very happy today:
I went looking for cars with Mr S today. Actually drove two cars one Peugeot 307 and one Alfa Romeo. I prefered the French and Mr S the Italian... negociations continue. I realized that I really like cars :) In the Alfa I did 130 on the highway, was so nice! That car is made for speeding in - loves it :)

He did say that he would buy the French if/when I pass my drivers license... I do however think having a learner's permit is good enough!
Once I have a drivers licence I have to drive alone and that really freaks me out.

Then we stopped by IKEA and a few other places looking for kitchens. We are having our bahroom and kitchen renovated in January. I don't know where I am supposed to live during this time but the co-op are providing "possibility to shower" i. e. a shack in the yard. Hm, can't really see myself shower in a shack in the backyard but there is a first time for everything. Or not...

Afterwards we went to the movies and saw The Bourne Ultimatum (3/5). Mr S loved it, I wasn't very impressed actually.
Yesterday we had brunch with friends Gonza, T and sis. They are really lovely, had such a nice time. Afterwards we went on to fix Mr S' clothes for the wedding, it's finally done! I was really stressed out about that but as always Mr S manages to fix things in the end. Now it's about 3 weeks to go.
Am looking into the possibility of going with Mr S to Lisbon after the wedding. He is going to work in Lisbon for abut 10 days and I might be tagging along for a few days. I can't decide if it's a good idea or not. He'll be working and entertaining clients and I'll be on my own most of the time anyway: going to museums and shopping. Lisbon was really nice as far as I remember but being there all alone... I don't know.

Found one of my favourite tunes on Itunes. So that one will be the song of today

Take care
Love/E

Song of the day: You don't own me - The Blow Monkeys

Friday, September 14, 2007

Fall is...

a good time for a fresh start, I think. But also a good time to remember and recollect.

9/11 came and went. Here in Sweden most people remember the murder of Ms Anna Lindh but obviosly also the Twin Towers in NYC.
I think most people remember what they did and where they were when these two events occured.
When the Twin Towers were attacked I was working and listening to the radio. At first I thought it was some lunatic who had flew a small plane, somethink Cessna-like, but the I realised the it was a passenger plane and it was some sort of an attack.

On 9/11 this year they aired a documentary about the families and how they coped with the money they got from the 9/11-fund. It's amazing what money can make people do...

When Ms Lindh was murdered I lived in Nykoping and followed the news all that night. First thing I did when I got up the next morning was turning on the TV and they reported her death. She and her husband lived in Nykoping - her husband was the mayor.

This fall will be a huge new start for myself as I'm starting a new life as married. Wedding are fun, great parties and a lot of love in the air. Marriage is fun too, maybe not party all the time but once you remeber to keep the love in the air it's all good!

Found a pair of shoes for the party and they are fierce! Black and shiny and just enough bling to make me happy :)
Now I'm all set: got the shoes and the dress to go with it, the bag to clutch and the perfect match in Mr S :)

Take care
Love/E

Song of the day: Be my Baby - Vanessa Paradis

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Going downhill?!?!

Poor poor Britney! Her performance at the MTV Awards wasn't her best ever. She looks absolutely miserable. Stiff, no energy and just sexyness - just nothing.
I wonder what went wrong there? Maybe a case of too much too soon...

Me, on the other hand, is quite please with my situation. I left my sales job. Sales just isn't my thing. I found myself looking around at the others thinking "How could anyone in their right mind enjoy this?!?!"
That job was like a Hermes-scarf fierce in every way but not my style.

Now I', playing housewife. I'm not very succesfull but it's quite nice. I thought I could lie on my couch and do my nails and eat candy all day. According to Mr S I'm supposed to clean the house and have dinner ready for him when he gets home...
In his dreams, I want to shop at Prada and drink champagne :)

Take care
Love/E

Song of the day: Be My Baby - Vanessa Paradis

Monday, September 10, 2007

The pole is my friend!

I've been poledancing!
Oh yes, indeed I have.
It started Thursday when O called Mr S and asked if we wanted to have brunch with him and H Saturday. I thought it would be nice so we decided to meet up at Clarion hotel.
Late Friday night, after we chased wedding clothes for Mr S, we tried to get a table for the brunch but it turns out that they don't serve brunch on Saturdays.
O then suggested Mosebacke instead.
Got up quite early on Saturday since we neede to find some fabric to make a vest for Mr S. I had an idea that it would be cool if his vest matched my dress. This won't happen since I have apparently picked a dress in an unusual colour (sort of pink+red+purple...).
Anyway we got to Mosebacke and H showed up. Apparently O had an emergency call from work and would be arriving later.

After about 1,5 hrs suddenly sis walks in looking very guilty. I of course immediately thought she was on a date but no. Next person to show up is my girl Gonza and then M. Merveilleux and Ylva with a videocamera in her hand shows up.
Then I begin to understand what is going on...

We walk for a while in the rain and end up at a quite freaky looking gym. Pictures of men kicking eachother in the head are on display.
It turns out that I am going to learn sme serious poledancing. I had a great time but it was really hard. I now have a newfound and deep respect for strippers.
At the gym some more of my friends turn up even G&V who came in from Brussels.

After 1,5 hrs of sweaty poledancing sis, G, D and myself (shout out to G and D: very few men would put on a skimpy little dress and work a pole like they did!!) show our stuff. There where a lot of pictures taken of this event to Mr S's joy since he wasn't there.

After the pole we went back to H's place for shower and champagne. Now it was just the girls. Mr S picked up sis and drove home to get some clothes for me. After a while I was blindfolded and taken to a car driven by my dad. I wasn't supposed to know but I heard him cough :)
We arrived in the Old Town where D met up with me and took me down a few stairs into a room where all of my fab friends where waiting. Actually almost everyone who are coming to the wedding was there. A few months back I told sis I didn't want a girly bacheloretteparty rather a night out with friends and that was what I got. We had a great time: good food, great champagne and of course a lot of cosmopolitans :)
At around 11 pm Mr S arrived and we stayed until 3 in the morning. After a quick stop at Max for some food - home and off to bed.

Sunday I dragged mysef out of bed at around 1 o'clock and spent the entire day watching dvd's on the couch :)

I had a great time and I truly have some amazing friends!

Take care
Love/E

Song of the day: Sexy Back - Justin Timberlake

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Invisible woman

Was gone for a while but I'm back now. Accidently deleted the entire blog but got it restored thanks to the Blogger team!

Life has been pretty good. My workmates are nice but the job isn't really like I thought it would be... We (that is the English guys I work with and myself) went out for a beer after work last Friday. Mr S joined us and we ended up going bowling which was a blast. Then off to a bar for some drink. Mr S true to himself ordered everone Long Island ice teas. I did stay quite sober since we were getting up quite early the next day to go to Dalhalla and see Carmen with my family. Sis, Mr S and me gave that to mum for her birthday.

Went by NH today and met up with sweetheart J. In some weird way I miss that place but I guess it's like with old boyfriends - you only remember the good things...
Speaking of old boyfriends: ran in to an ex yesterday. We dated years ago - I think it was in 2001 and now he has a son and is getting married next year. When I told him that I was getting married in October his answer was: "Oh f*ck then you will beat me. You weren't supposed to do that"
Wonder what happened to a simple congratulations?!?!?

Wedding update:
30 out of the 57 have answered. The invitation cards are really fierce: red with black writing.
Photographer is definetely booked. He was nice enough to come over to or place so we could discuss the whole thing. I did mention that I have having my picture taken but he said once we are in the middle of it I won't notice him.

Read in one of the creepy wedding magazines (reminder to self: they are just a huge waste of money) that it is up to the bride and her mother to arrange the wedding. So I'm thinking I should get my mother involved. The problem is that once my mum gets involved in things I somehow go back to being a grumpy teenager and completely loose my temper.
Since Mr S and my mum gets along so well I thought I'd suggest that she helps him pick out his outfit.
It's at least worth considering...

Bought a gymcard yesterday. Now I only need to start using it. I did use the last one I had at least for a while... and then I used to stop by the gym to use their toilets when I was out shopping. Paid 50 euros a month to use the bathroom but sometimes it felt like it was money well spent :)

Now laundry time!

Take care
Love E

Song of the day: Good Enough - Darren Hayes

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Check!

The new job is really good. Actually I haven't really worked yet, me and 3 others have done a 3-day training with the two top sales executives. One of the, O, who used to also be the office manager is one of those guys that has energy flowing through every vein. Being english he only drinks tea which is a good thing. Too much caffeine in him and he'll be bouncing off the walls.
The other guy, J, is a more laid back english school-boy type. He is as of today my manager. I hope we will get along nicely.
The salary is totaly based on sales. I get 10% comission on each sale I do. So if I get some CEO to buy a 90.000 euro event that'll mean 9.000 euros to me :) Not bad at all actually, not bad at all.
Another good thing about this job it's that I have my weekends and evenings off => more time for Mr S and me. Working at NH was obviously easier for me since I was the one working. It's never fun to spend every evening alone...
They have a seriously business dress code. So today I wore a whirt shirt and a grey skirt. I had to go and buy some new clothes - very non trendy. I will however NOT compromise when it come to shoes, never! I wear high heels simply because I like the view from the top ;)

Last Friday night we had H&O over for dinner, very nice. I made an "african" chicken stew - at least the receipie said so. It had chocolate, chili and cinnamon in it. We had as usual some really inense conversations about work. H and myself are so totally different when it comes to work. She actually enjoys it - I do it because I need money to play... Anyway she has got an offer from Norway so she'll be staying in Oslo as of middle October.

The rest of the weekend I was driving... and driving... and driving. If you ask me I'm good at it. Ask Mr S I drive to fast (this from a guy who easily does 220km/h on the freeway), me, I was doing 130.

Wedding update:
Invitaions printed and sent - check
Photographer booked - check
Make up booked - check
Menu set - check
Second meeting with coordinator - check (she is a bit odd actually but she starts to get the point: Keep It Simple)
Hotel booked for wedding night - check
Bartender - check

But there are still...
no shoes - must find the exact right ones
no clothes for Mr S (am trying to stay out of it but I have explained to him that getting a suit taylor made takes time...)
not enough booze
no DJ or any kind of music
no hairdresser (Miss E is still out of town!!)
no honey moon: Mr S has to go to Lisbon right after the wedding so London - Paris - Rome is put on ice for now.

My dads 65th birthday is coming up in November and he wants to get out of town and the country.
I suggested Dubai or Rome, Dad suggested St Petersburg or Moscow.
We have reached a status quo...
His argument was: "it's my birthday so I should decide."
My argument was: " last time you decided we ended up in the Azores, waited 22 hours at a shit airport and you had a bad clam and ended up in the hospital. Obviously you don't know your own good"
His argument: "I'll be paying for the damn thing."
Me: *leaving the room*
Dad: "I rest my case"
But this is far from over!

Take care
/Love E

Song of the day: Coming Home - John Legend

Thursday, August 02, 2007

Anger management

My Ipod suck! The little b*tch doesn't work... or I can use it but when I connect it to my computor it doesn't show up like it used to so I can't download any music.

Only one of many things that annoys me.
The other big thing is that I am completely unable to make descisions. Like about this job... it will be hard work and I'll have to take a lot of crap. Mr S said it'll be like boot camp - sorting out the men from the boys ;)
I always take the easiest way out since I don't really like to work at all. Had I been financially independent I wouldn't work at all ... ever.
I know for sure I could do it and I'll probably be good at it but the question is: do I really want to? Deep down I don't think I want it.
But I'm going there on Monday and check it out. This is not the kind of job where I can chill and wait for the day to end. Oh crap!!

Last week I told Mr S what annoys me about the wedding. I have done all the work so far and we so far behind schedule so I suggested that we postponed the whole thing until next year. He didn't agree with me but when I told him all the thing we needed to do he got a bit stressed out. It's not the actual weddingceremony that is the issue it's the party.
So this last week we have been in "wedding mode" and almost everything is done :)
The invitations are being printed today. And they'll be fierce: black print on red paper, loves it. We have a photographer and the menu is set, we have also booked the hotel. Now all I need is shoes!
I did pick up a pair of fierce ones while shopping with girlfriend M. These but in black. They are on my list of possibles.

Ah, almost forgot: Ran into Dr C just before I left for Greece. Mr S only comment was: "How could he be man enough to get to you?"
Honestly, I don't know...

Now I have to start going through my closet. Have to pick out something to wear that falls into the business smart cathegory for work on Monday.

Take care
Love /E

Song of the day: Scream - Michael Jackson feat Janet Jackson

Quote of the day: "If the shoes fits, buy it in every color"

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Free

at last! I'm free... or at least I will be in about 12 hours. The end of NH and never again :)

My sweet J is also leaving, he is off to work at a very posh night club. I think his gay-diva attitude will work wonders there.
I wonder how my black-diva attitude will work at the new place. I'll find out in August and keep you posted...

Take care
/E

Song of the day: I'm Free - Soup Dragons

Some pictures from Greece

Monday, July 23, 2007

Back in business

Have been home for about a week now. Greece was lovely!
We had a few days in Athens for some citylife and shopping. The Acropolis was closed due to strike but I suppose it'll be there next time I go to Athens :)

Big things have happens in Ms E's life:
I have landed a new high end job. Junior Sales Executive. It sounds great but it's hard work for shit money. I haven't decided yet if I'm going to accept it, or well I have accepted it but I haven't decided yet if I'm going to start. it is supposed to start on August 6th so I still have some time to decide.
This is my last weekend at NLH. Thank God! I wasn't actually supposed to work but after meeting my sweetheart J I decided to be a good sport and finish in style. Apparently he has been on his own for a few days as Miss J now is the "shift supervisor" and too good to actually work...
So I guess I'll be running my ass of for a few days. Oh well, my ass has become pretty big so if I loose some of it, it's a good thing :)

Picked up a huge amount of dvds on sale the other days so I have stuff to do. And I also wasted almost 3 hrs of my life watching the horror "Transformers". My god, I have seen a few shit movies in my life but this... People starve in the world and money are being wasted on crap like that!
Yesterday I saw Harry Potter and the order of the Phoenix - it was ok. I haven't read a single Harry Potter-books so I guess I've missed out on some of the story.

Wedding update: NONE!
Diva-like friend U is getting hitched on September 1st. She has ordered custom made M&Ms from the US with hers and future husbands Ls initials on them. I didn't even know you could do that... Don't get me wrong: I think it's pretty fierce but itsn't it a bit over the top?!?!
But what the hell if you have the money to send why not spend it.

Says I who paid 90 euros for a clutch bag...

Now, food and shower :)

Take care
/E

Song of the day: Umbrella - Rihanna feat Jay-Z

Monday, July 09, 2007

Greece

Am right now at an internet cafe in Methoni in Peleponess in Greece.
We have had a few really nice days so far. It's not as hot as I thought but it is hot...

I have seen ancient Olympia, Delphi (no oracle...) Parga - small town on the western coast and the island of Lefkada. The coolest thing was the Aceron river and the Fountain of Youth. The water was about +3 and the current was really really strong. We walked up stream for about 1 hour. The amazing thing was that after a while I really couldn't feel my feet due to the cold water. But I got to swim in the Fountain of Youth so now I'll be 27 forever ;)
At the moment I can't wait to get to Athens for some serious shopping and big city-stress :)

Greece is not lika I thought it would be. Most people are very kind and interested in asking questions. Obviously they stare, so far I've seen two other black persons - both tourists. Here in Methoni there are hardly any tourists so we could very easily find a place to stay. It's not a 3 star place but it seems nice.
The car is ok. I actually got to drive for a while even if it is totally illegal. Don't know what would happen if I got pulled over by the police...

I'm working on my 2 of 3 (fierce skin and loosing weight). Trying to get shiny hair is really no point at the moment...High humidity = frizzy hair....

Am going to finish my beer now. Possibly not the best hing since I'm trying to loose weight but what the hell...

Take care
/E

Song of the day: Shut up and Drive - Rihanna

Tuesday, July 03, 2007

On the road

Tomorrow we're off to Greece!

The roadtrip has already gotten a shaky start. Got a call today from the rent-a-car-place telling asking if we could reconsider the 9 seater and take two small cars instead. Oh well, according to Mr S that i very much like Greece.

I'll try to update a few times during the trip as I take internet for granted :)

For those of you who understands Swedish we have our on line journal at:
www.resedagboken.com and look for traveller HelenaP

Take care
/E

Song of the day: For you I will - Monica

Thursday, June 28, 2007

Push the present

Learned a new word today: Push Present. That is a gift probably some serious bling bling that the husband and recent father is supposed to give the wife and recent mother when she has given birth to their child. Aha, so that's why they do it. I've said it before: It's all about the bling bling :)

Speaking of bling: I really want want one of these. I only use my phone for calling and texting but just having one would be amazingly cool. I suppose it can also be use for ccalling since itäs called I-PHONE...

By this time next week I will be in Greece. I've never been there before so I'm really looking forward to it. If you have any tips of dos and don'ts feel free to share. Apparently people have been dying from the heat in both Greece and Turkey. God, I hope it won't be that hot when we get there. The weather has been strange lately, all due to pollution. Read in the paper today that if the temperature in he Baltic sea is raised more than 4 degrees a lot of fish will die, the seas will disappear and be replaced by meat-eating jellyfishes.... Sounds like a creepy movie but it's the truth.

At the moment I'm trying to get the honeymoon plans together. Mr S has left it all up to me, smart man ;) The plan is to go to London (I've never been) and then take the Eurostar train (never tried) to Paris (I love) and then the train (haven't presented the train idea yet) to Rome (haven't been there in ages).
First I wanted to take the Orient Express but since it costs a fortune and they have no showers on board I skipped the idea. Apparently you are supposed to dress up for dinner every night and NO shower. Imagine that...

I was as expected not invited to the M&M wedding. Female M is deeply religious and male M is not at all. They are as far as I know getting married in a church. I wonder what that will be like for him.

I have two more days to work before the holiday and tomorrow I'm handing in my resignation :) Feels really geat to have made that descision. Have got some positive responses to my job applications but no actual offers just yet. So come this time next month I'll be a housewife. Who would have guessed.

Take care
/E

Song of the day: Tears of a Clone - Alcazar

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Two is a company

and three is a party and the 3 being Mr S, D and myself.

Things did get a bit out of hand but too much alcohol can make things happen. Not that I have any regrets, it was a cool thing to have done but I don't think I'll do it again with the same players involved.

Friday is the BIG day: Am handing in my resignations from NH on Friday. Then I work Saturday night and then vacation. My work situation has become unbearble right now and I need to get my life back. I've started looking for a new job and if I don't find one Mr S has to suport me. I'll become a "Trophy Wife" shopping and getting facials and my nails done daily.

Me and 4 others are flying to Athens next Wednesday, we will rent a car at the airport and then we will visit places like Delphi, Sparta, Olympia and so on. I think it'll be great. Heard on the news that it's +40 in Athens at the moment...

Today I had my hair done at a new place. It didn't really turn out all that well so I planned an emergency visit to Miss Elizabeth but she was away in vacation so now I've cut it myself and it isn't really that bad. It's not good either but it'll be fine for the summer. My plan is to have long fab hair for the wedding but at the moment I don't see that happening.
My plans for the wedding as far as my looks are concerned: loose weight, start training, fab skin, shiny hair.
As I write I have one out of 4. And I'm working on the others.

Wedding update: the guestlist is final! That just leaves us with all the rest....

Take care
/E

Song of the day: Aerosmith - I don't want miss a thing

Thursday, June 07, 2007

Black w/s White

Watched this amazing TV-show the other day (I tend to watch way too much TV) about two families - one black and one white that changed skin colour. Basically what they did was gave them a make over to turn the white family black and the black family white.

The white woman joined the black one at her hairsalon. And obviously she did the big no-no: she walks up to a sista and says: Oh my god look at your hair! and grabs it. That you never ever do. Do not touch a black womans hair! Ever.
I've had that happen to me so many times. You can't even begin to imagine how much time and money we spend on hair. Weaves and curls and relaxers and conditioners and so on and so forth. Ever wondered why there are no black female swimmers? We don't like to get our hair wet.

And then they start talking about music:
White woman: I don't hear any gangsta rap
Black woman: No, I'm not really into that hardcore stuff. But I do like 50.
White woman: Oh yes, I also like music from the 50ies and the 60ies. But I do prefer the 70ies, you know the disco era. (makes creepy discomoves)
Black woman: .....

I laughed until I cried. Mr S tried to explain to me that 50 isn't obviously 50 Cent - who else would it be?!?!

See, the thing about prejudice is how you choose to relate to them. If I walk down the street and the person I'm meeting looks away is it because I'm black or is it because they just looked away? I choose to think the latter. Simply because it makes my life easier and happier. I can't waste my time being angry. It just isn't worth it.

I did however stay out of town yesterday as it was the 6th of June when we are supposed to celebrate Sweden, wave flags and be a bit nationalistic. The flags I saw where carried by white men with short hair and nazi and racist symbols.
That's when I don't choose the latter, that's when I stare them striaght in the eye until they look away. That is when I don't back down.

I have already decided that next year I'll be waving the flags and sing the national anthem. Simply because I can and simply because I have to.

Take care
/E

Song of the day:
Alive - Pearl Jam

Sunday, May 20, 2007

Freaky 34

I'll be 34 next week, I wish I was 27. 34 seems so old... like I should be something that I'll never become no matter how hard I try.
I will never be one of those women who can wear white pants an entire day and they stay white or look cool with shiny hair and even on the hottest days of summer. My skin gets shiny when it's hot outside and my hair is frizzy and my jeans are no longer white after 5 mns away from my house...
34 is food shopping once a week at the supermarket - in my fridge you'll find old sallad, booze and eggs.
34 is a healthy dinner with significant other and friends and their significant others while discussing the latest news - I party and find jokes about sex hilarious.
34 is career, a well paid job and financial security - I have a shit job that barely pays my bills and no money left on the 20th each month.

But I like my life. So, yes I've done some bad choices but I've learned and I have really had a lot of fun.
I have no kids, no coffee machine, no garden, I haven't seen the latest plays or read the latest award winning books but I have a loving partner, great friends, and one room in my apartment has gold colored walls :)

Take care
Love/E

Song of the day: Snake - R Kelly

Tuesday, May 08, 2007

Cleaning out my closet

I made a few descisions:
¤ I am going to leave my job. I will miss the fierce duo J&J but we will try to stay in touch, but that's all I miss. At the moment I miss having a social life and hanging out with friends during the evenings and weekends. This job sometimes has me hating and despicing the human race. Once people get to start drinking their manners are right down the drain.

¤ I am going to get rid of some "friends" who gives me nothing. I don't mind people coming to me for favours, I really do my best to help out when I can, but then I do expect the favours to be returned. When a person who I haven't heard from in ages suddenly turns up and starts requesting stuff from me like we are best friends...And to make matters even worse in this case this is the girl who tried to get Mr S into bed! I konw it won't happen but just the fact that she tried is annoying the hell out of me.

¤ I am going to get rid of some "friends" who can never be happy for me when I'm doing good. Those who always finds some fault in everything.
Hello, smile a bit then life will be better, I promise!

¤ I am going to get rid of "friends" I don't really really like. Why spend time with people I don't enjoy spending time with? This is a bit tricky since some of these people are the significant other of someone I really like.
One of my friends, J, has a new girlfriend (I think she has even moved in with him) and I really think she is strange. She doesn't drink (in my line of work that is quite odd!), I think she has an eating disorder and is quite unstable in general.
J and I used to hang out quite a lot before he met her. Now we haven't seen eachother in ages. I know that she isn't solely to blame for this, we both have been working a lot. He has a fab house a bit outside of town and we used to go there for casual dinners just a few of us and drink wine, watch movies and just have fun. Haven't been there since last summer.

¤ I am going to get myself back in shape. So today I am going for a run! Or a quick walk I haven't decided yet. I'm going to try to do some physical activity 3 times a week and ride my bike to and from work.

Have been working with Mr S on m CV and it has turned out really well. I have a fierce degree in Criminology that has given me nothing but debts but I had a lot of fun at the university. Now I owe the government some 13.000 euros....

Yesterday Mr S and I celebrated our first year together. I have really never done that before in any realtionship I've been in so it was a new experience. We both had a day of from work so we had a nice breakfast in bed, hen in to town and did some shopping. And then we went to the movies (Spiderman III 2/5) and then dinner. We spent the weekend at Gimo mansion. The place was really nice but the food wasn't all that good. The waitor only turned to Mr S while he presented tho food and the wine. I guess it's a mans world. The last bottle he placed next to me since "I notice that you also seemed interested in wine". Hello, I do what you do 10 times as good!
They had a pool table so we played some. I haven't played since I lived in France but I did quite good. Won a few and lost a few.

Wedding updates:
Mommie dearest obviously told everyone in my family that I'm getting hitched so now they all expect an invitation: my boring cousins and their boring girlfriends and screaming kids. It won't happen! We (or I) decided to keep the wedding child free, no one under the legal drinking age gets invited. I know that this will offend some but that is the way it is.

Take care
/E

Song of the day: Caught Up - Usher